Date Your Significant Other.

Making your marriage a priority is freaking hard. Especially after kids. And even more so when there are multiple kids and jobs and (fill in the blank) and (fill in the blank). 

Isn't it crazy how the person you CHOSE to love and most likely LIVE with is somehow the person you don't spend that much time with? Like real, quality time with?

So let's TRY to be better. Let's spend time with our significant other. Date him or her. Like fun, silly, little dates. Even if it's at home. That is what my husband and I do. We have a date night in every Friday. 

I will even give you some ideas. You don't even have to think! Jackpot! 

Date Night In Ideas

1. Watch a movie. 

If you both like the same type, perfect. If not, one week pick what you like, the next choose one he or she will like. 

2. Board games. 

Yahtzee, Rummikub, Life, Operation, The possibilities are endless. 

3. Card games

Go Fish, Slapjack, Spades, War.

4. Late Dinner.

Feed the kids, but save your appetite for later. Make dinner together then eat in on the floor, with candles, in bed. 

5. Dessert.

Make cookies, brownies, cake pops. Put on some music and dance while you bake. 

6. Have sex.

Will not go into this one.

7. Have a Q&A night.

Do 1, do them all. 

8. Massages.

Dual foot massages with your favorite TV show on or music is my personal favorite. 

9. Do a DIY project together.

10. Plan something.

Meals for the week, a weekend day with the kids, traditions you want to start, plan a fake dream vacation. 

Even though you may not be able to leave the house for whatever reason, you can still spend time and have fun dating your significant other. 

Enjoy each other! 

I'm Alive and Awesome!

It is amazing how life can take over. Even some things you love to do can take the back burner. There are so many little past times I enjoy, but never get to take the time to do them for myself. Yes, for myself.

Since becoming a mom it seems as if I am being selfish to do anything for myself. It is my job now to take care of another human being. This tiny human relies on my for everything. Not that it is a bad thing, obviously, I signed up for the job. This new job has ridiculous hours, no days off, and very few breaks. It is completely insane and satisfying at the same time. It teaches patience, love, and understanding. It gives you a sense of purpose. With all that said, I realized I need to "work" on myself.

I have realized I have many "jobs", myself being one of them. I not only have to take care of my little human, but I need to take care of my other half, as well as, myself. Myself. Me. Jennifer. I am still Jennifer. Jason always tells me I need to take breaks, that he can help. He says he can watch Nate while I nap. There is such a difference between hearing words and actually believing them. I now believe him. It has taken a long time, but the words have meaning now.

I'm not exactly sure how this change happened. It was as if just one day I woke up and had the sudden urge to make a drastic change. Jason and I had been discussing eating healthier and getting a gym membership. When I got back from a 3 week trip from California my mind was set. Gym membership activated and the next grocery trip was full of healthy items.

It's been 1 month since my change. My modification. My revision of life. I have lost 7lbs, LOVE the classes at the gym, meal plan with healthy foods, Nate has been sleeping better, and I just feel better! I've started doing little things I used to do, such as, paint my nails, take a nap, read, just have some Jenn-time....maybe even blog more!

As I type, I am enjoying a glass of wine, watching a movie, and know my sleeping little human is in his crib dreaming. The day was busy and crazy, but I did my job. The job duties never end and that's okay. I just need to remember I am still Jennifer, not just "mommy".

I wrote this post as a reminder to myself, but also to everyone else who needs it.. Believe the words. Take the time for yourself. Enjoy whatever makes you happy. You can be a mom, or whatever job you do, and (insert name here) simultaneously. You can. Believe it and do it.